8 steps to achieving your goals.........

It is not what you are, but your attitude towards life that matters where you are going to, but do remember that you will never get anywhere unless you know where you are.


Hey guys how was the weekend ..... I really do hope that it was wonderful. Today I'll be sharing with you 8 steps of achieving your goals.. soo if you're having challenges with goal setting please keep on reading... or just go to the main page and click another post.


Alright .....The 8 steps to goal setting

1.  Determine where you are and decide what you want to achieve.

This doesnt talk about your location, it talks about telling yourself the truth about your life. It simply means acknowledging the fact that you cant afford to do some certain kind of things because you are lacking in an area in your life. It simply means even when you have everything you're yearning for more because of a personal reason. It simply means avoiding self deceit. Then after deciding and accepting I say 'accepting' because some people still think they were adopted... lol .... it now comes to where you think of what you would like to achieve, that is where God comes in ... go to God and ask him for a divine direction for your life.

Proverb 16:25
                          There is a path before each person that seems right,
                          but it ends in death.



2.  Be Specific and Realistic

I love this one because it enables me request to my deepest desire.... Let me tell you a short story....there was a fire outburst in a house and the housegirl picked up the phone and dialed...911, luckily for her someone picked and she started screaming into the phone FIRE!! FIRE!! FIRE!! PLEASE COME AND HELP! and then she dropped the phone. After a while nobody showed up and she picked the phone and dailed again and repeated the same message. Guess what? hehe the house burnt down! and then the owners got angry and sued the policeman that answered the call to court...during the case the man said ' yes! she called yes! I answered but she failed to describe where the house was so we couldn't help. Does that explain how specific you have to be with your goals? I guess so.... quit saying i want to gain admission ... say i want to gain admission into this school to study that course and to finish in the year.... you write it down.
Being realistic.... my brother you know your 1 month salary is five thousand naira and you took pen and paper and started writing GOAL 1- I want to earn 1 million by the end of the year... hehe.. i pity you God is not a magician oooo. So be realistic in writing your goals.

Mathew 7:7-10

⁷ “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you. ⁸ For everyone who asks, receives. Everyone who seeks, finds. And to everyone who knocks, the door will be opened.

⁹ “You parents—if your children ask for a loaf of bread, do you give them a stone instead? ¹⁰ Or if they ask for a fish, do you give them a snake? Of course not!

3. You must set a Deadline for your goals

I do not know about you but as for me whenever i am given an assignment and i have a dead line, and i also know that those people are counting on me to make that assignment work... I make sure with the help of God cause sometimes its tedious that I perform.  In this case you being is depending on you.. do not fail yourself. You yes! am talking to you that is reading this article you think you're soo young and you have time to be wasting...my friend you dont, there is no time to waste so arise and shine. IF YOU FAIL TO SET A DEADLINE FOR THAT GOAL? THAT PLAN IT WILL REMAIN SO TILL KINGDOM COMES

Psalm 90:12

                     ¹² So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.

4. Write your GOALS down

This is probably the easiest out of them all... write it down ... your brain isn't a computer even the smartest of the smartest have a need to write some things down. It is good to also write down so you remind your self that you've been set by some kinda rule. Even God said 

Isaiah 30:8 

       ⁸ The Lord told me to write down his message for his people, so that it would be there forever.

  

        

5. Make a plan of action

You've got a goal.. how do you intend to execute it..Success isnt a one man business look for people around you that are in your area of interest ask questions... remember assupmtions is the lowest for of knowledge.. Do research on your interest what you're planning to study? how long will it take? who is the best in that area? which school is the best for that area? what can I do with this interest of mine? and the list goes on...

6. Execute your plan  

This is a bold step.. do not hold back! Look for God's promises concerning your goals, ask God for help and keep asking, identify all the barriers you may face, you must be ready to pay the full price for whatever you want to achieve... reduce time wasting distractions, if you do not pay the price you will not get there, ask God to send helpers your way... here is one of God's promises 

Hebrews 4:16

            ¹⁶ So whenever we are in need, we should come bravely before the throne of our merciful God. There we will be treated with undeserved kindness, and we will find help.

7. Review your goals regularly

That is why you wrote them in the first place to come back and meditate and envision and remind yourself.

8 Always remain FOCUSED, NEVER GIVE UP AND BE PATIENT.....these are the fruits of the spirit .. you need them 

Galatians 5:22-23 

²² God’s Spirit makes us loving, happy, peaceful, patient, kind, good, faithful, ²³ gentle, and self-controlled. There is no law against behaving in any of these ways. 

Thank you if you've read to this point hope you set your goals right don't forget to follow this blog and leave a comment! Thanks i love feedback it is encouraging.

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 I came across this tweet sometime ago and it said .... If you show a GIRL you do not care she'll chase you, but if you show a WOMAN you do not care she'll replace you. At first when i read it I was smiling to myself secretly wondering if I am still a girl or I have grown to become a woman.


So let me ask are you a woman or a girl... are you still a boy or a man? It then puzzled me why a girl will chase a guy who doesnt care for her and then the bulb lit up and I realized she chases the guy because she isn't used to disappointments, she's used to getting what she wants, nobody says no to her .... and as for the woman she has grown to understand that in life disappointments are inevitable... and no one has time for time wasters.

  I used to be a girl.... letting my emotions cloud my reasoning. Putting my mind at risk, but then I fed the girl courage to become a woman... that woman who will then replace the boy for a man!.

  Stay away from them guys that do not put emotion to their doings with you..... or them girls who see you as a money bag....as you've got a lot to loose you may not see it now, but when your assumptions are wrong and you're too cowardly to blame yourself then you'll realize.

I feel that Alhaji Dangote and the Mr Adenuga had no time for this because they understood the principle of there's time for everything. They sort first to discover themselves then every other thing followed.

Mathew 6:33

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If only I were like Madiba.....

 December 5th 2013 was the day this great leader died and i woke up and i saw various updates about his death... day 1. The next day more and more people kept on creating awareness and I thought to myself 'okay he was great, they do this for great people'. Day 3 and no one would stop talking about this man... countries across the world urged their citizens to mourn for some days while others some weeks. Tv channels put a halt to some of their shows to grief, that indeed it was a great loss. All the celebrities, presidents and important persons all said a thing or two about this man and am like wow.... what really makes Nelson Mandela this great?

I couldn't just tweet 'R.I.P Nelson Mandela' because its "trending" i was more curious of why the whole world felt his pass away. I mean many great leaders have died but this is the first I've seen that's so significant.

Well my curiosity was satisfied when i found out the true meaning of leadership, I can say I found the true meaning of greatness in the death of Mandela. It struck me when i found out that the world didn't admire Nelson Mandela because he had money,fame, power,eductation or because he was the first democratically elected South African President. No!

The world marveled at Madiba because he possessed three virtues; Self sacrifice, he impersonated passion, he accepted everyone's difference.
I cant  believe he spent 27 years in prison and eventually he came out holding no grudge but just being happy he was freeman and most importantly he could continue his doings.....that's the thing with passion, its the fuel of life it creates an abundance of energy that sustains your actions. Even when he was elected as president in the year 1994, he was given opportunity to take revenge but instead he preached forgiveness........ That's an awesome man! He was so passionate about peace and unity that he radiated it... he had the charisma that forcefully compelled people to follow.

Nelson Mandela fought apartheid cause he felt people should relinquish the need to judge by the color of the skin. He knew humanity could only be expressed by tolerance and compassion and so therefore were the first steps to being at peace with yourself. Mandela never gave up with respects to all the setbacks cause he knew true failure was only when he gave up... he did not only stand for what he believed  he was ready to die for it.

Many of us seek greatness... but in what? true greatness starts with me! it starts with you. Nowadays everyone wants to be famous and have a record label, have the money have the ladies... I mean people want to enjoy life cause you only live once right? But assuming death comes what impact would you have made in the world? Will people remember you after a decade? will your life story be a tale parents would like to pass on to their children? Everybody runs a race... find your passion! Search for it like the dog thats looking for its lost bone.... true fulfillment in life is laying on death's bed and dying with a smile knowing you've done your part.

If only I were Madida.....I will be a better leader, think a greater way, and forgive no matter the circumstance. God bless

Common Sense...... Is no more common (RELATIONSHIPS) UPDATED

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 Today I'll be writing about common sense in our RELATIONSHIPS!!!! this really goes out to the girls than to the guys. I really mourn the death of common sense in the relationship of today because we seem to get a lot of things wrong.

 5 tips on common sense
1. Never mourn your singleness
2. Never take your heart on a journey without your brain
3. Every relationship must be defined; an undefined relationship is a DANGEROUS!  relationship
4. Never wave away warning signals
5. Never look down on anyone
6. Don't sacrifice your future on the altar of temp pleasure


Common Sense Tip 1: Never mourn your singleness

 Okay a lot of women feel like there is an essential need for a man in their lives and generally feel that without one they can never be complete, that maybe true, but it depends on the way Amaka carries it on her head than Angela does.

Never allow anyone make you feel inferior just because they are dating or married and you're not. Never compare yourself with that lady that's into this wonderful relationship cause it aint all that glitters is Gold. God didn't create us and say to us marriage is your destiny, God certainly has a bigger plan for you and he put marriage in his own time for you in your life. So why don't you quit worry and build yourself in a wonderful way for that special man. Read books expand your knowledge no one respects dumb woman

Common sense Tip 2: Never take your heart on a journey without your brain

Ladies!!! shine your eyes!!! shone your brain!! shine your heart!!! Be alert! Never allow your emotions override your sense of reasoning giving the fact that women are very irrational beings. Be a different woman like +Steve Harvey (SteveHarveyTV) will say act like a lady but certainly think like a man. When you allow your heart be the driver and your heart the passenger in the journey of your destiny accidents are inevitable. Lets take an example

If your man is an abuser, does not appreciate you, does not even allow you be the woman you really are SISTER!! He aint meant for you.
Another lady comes in and says " oh my fiancee is in India" "my boo is in Canada" " my hobby is in France" and all these ladies have is a phone number or an email address if you're on like that you're a fool of the 21st century. I mean place value on yourself because that relationship is as cheap as changing phone numbers or email address.
You've been going out with a guy and his not introduced you to anyone important in his life? Girl you're sure is wasting your time... that dude is a time waster.

Common sense Tip 3: Every relationship must be defined an undefined relationship is a DANGEROUS relationship

If you do not define a relationship you give room for assumptions, and assumptions is the lowest level of wisdom. Love is not blind if you think love is blind marriage will open your eyes. When you get married and especially if its to the wrong person its reality.com. Do not allow one guy that has not defined his relationship with you monopolize your life. Th niggah is just browsing the website without downloading stopping other potential browsers come into the webpage. Chics be like " Wale we've been seeing each other for the past 3months i really want to know what we define this as" and he goes " the past 3 months have been great i don't really know but lets see how it goes". Better take a u-turn and runaway cause you aint a keeper for him. You don't want to see how it goes you want to know if your dating or its a fling as much as the truth hurts a little honesty goes a long way.

Common sense Tip 4: Never wave away warning signals

God never allows anything to befall us without giving you a warning signal. This one is very funny because even when our creator is waving the obvious in our face we just don't want to see it. If you're that lady and you're on a hunt for marriage and your man dissapears during the holidays, doesn't take you to his house, doesn't introduce you to anyone special, only calls you that T.G.I.F Fridays and etc and even when he introduces you he's like 'this is Dolapo' with no title when you know you're obviously dating or when his such a jerk and goes ahead and says 'this is my friend" are you guys friends?!!!".

You've been disturbing him you want to go to his house and one day he just pops up and says okay lets go and finally you reach the house and you go into the kitchen and you see the well furnished kitchen with all the things women like to put in their kitchen and you go to the parlor and all you see on the walls are nails..... abeg is nail a decoration!!??? that man definately has a woman in his life.

The one that baffles me is when women that are not yet married to some men get beaten up brutally ........ and these women run back to the men and all they do among loved ones who obviously care about them is cry and say ' I love him' ....  AHHHHHH!!! is that love.... beating up property he hasn't paid bride price for?

OR the guys that over drink and smoke and when asked by their girlfriends they give an excuse of being put under pressure. See this life is full of pressure. If his over drinking and smoking now and beating you up even before you settle down you're signing your death certificate.

All these men that will using terms like 'GOLD DIGGER' just to hide the fact that they are stingy!!!!! you're dating a guy and he doesnt even ask if you need anything, its time for valentine and he breaks up with you a week before then gets back after the holiday, or when you bring down your pride and ask him for money for credit he changes the topic and tells you a story of a friend that suffered from a gold digging girl and his like thank God you"re not like that....... to me thats bulls!! i feel a real man isn't supposed to wait till his gf or wife or fiancee ask him for something his supposed to genuinely know that she has needs and fulfill em even if its not the whole thing the little you give goes a long way...... and ladies too learn to also give your men presents too.... anyone feeling me?

Common sense Tip 5: Never look down on anyone.

You are not your house,car what you wear, the amount of money you have.... trust me the packaging might be good but its the content that matters. Everyone preaches the word about never comparing yourself with another person. Every single being has his own race to run, a different race, a different destiny, a different goal but one end men! its not how fast its how well. Even God is interested with the ones that ended the race and not the ones that started it ...... you never really know every bodies stories so don't judge, don't hate, dint criticize, do not look down, just be you.  A book i once read says wisdom comes from studying others but enlightenment is studying one's self. FORGET!  about placing your yardstick with the other fella concentrate on yourself ignite the real YOU! in you.

Common sense Tip 6: Don't sacrifice your future on the altar for temporary pleasure

Sin & sex is pleasurable but also deadly the pleasure is for a moment but the consequence is eternal... the thing about temptations is that it goes for our weakness things we'll easily fall for it lures us into a part that we are willing to take but actually don't know how far we want to go. This last tip goes for mostly teenage girls..... Adults keep on ranting about the things we don't need at the moment in life but we see it as just 'all na talk' some of us are lucky we get away with the bad stuff but the naive ones get caught in some kinda loop hole. I feel every teenage girl should really sit down and think about every relationship shes about to go into ask all the questions before making any damn decisions or better off wait and see other peoples mistakes and learn from em ..... just be wise add a little common sense!

If not for God....if you're really thankful show it.

Kevin Carter (13th September 1960- 27th July 1994) took the picture of the boy and the vulture and was said to have committed suicide after he took this picture. As the picture above illustrates it shows a boy that's about to die and a hungry vulture that's waiting to eat its meal fresh. Kevin Carter couldn't handle the extent to which life was sometimes unfair, he felt ashamed that some of his worries where how to change a camera, or pay house rents when this little boy's worry was just a way to find food to eat. Food that was abundant for Kevin Carter and even sometimes too much it got thrown to the dustbin. Whats my point?

Many times in the life of people we don't stop for a little bit and just think about life as a whole. How we are able to freely breathe in oxygen, how we go to the toilet with ease, how we have our two legs and arms, how the ability to hear, speak and talk comes with ease. Many of us also lived our lives like that till someday something happened and life took another turn.

I actually cant believe when someone open their mouth to say I really don't have a reason to be thankful, they will be like I have nothing left, they'll complain about the numerous deaths around them, about lack of money, about lack of food and the list goes on. For the fact that you're alive today is a reason to thank God for when there's life there's hope, when situations are so bad just go down on your knees and thank God that it won't always be like that.

Its hard for human beings to focus on the positive, the good things happening around them when the bad just seems to cloud their vision. Remember Psalm 150:6  'let everything that has breath praise the Lord' grow a habit of thanking God for what you don't have and that bad situation would fade away. See more pictures of why you should be thankful after the cut.

If you still dont have a reason to be thankful..... just visit general hospital, take a stroll.